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nice... i thought this thread wud go to waste without any replies... but then, i realized this thread's alive...
She wrote back:Nice article. I would like to ask your opinion on one closely related topic: don’t you think we’ve got a vicious cycle going right now? Until more women play magic, men will keep making stupid assumptions. As long as we make those stupid assumptions, why would more women bother to play? It’s not just magic either, it’s all over any kind of competitive gaming. First-person shooters, online RPGs, RTS games, paper-and-pen RPGs, heck, even tournament-level chess and checkers. Same problems, same assumptions. The real question, though, is what’s the solution?
Telling us that we’re being idiots only works to a limited extent. For example, I’ve been playing Magic since Antiquities and I’ve only met (offline) three female players in that time. Now I‘ve visited the Charm School’s site several times, I’ve read all of Shivan Hellkitten’s posts at the Dojo and I know of several female gamers at the CPA site where I’m on the forums semi-regularly, and so on and so forth. Do I know there are many women gamers? Absolutely. I run into them all the time online. But I guarantee you that I’ll be surprised when I meet a fourth in person. I can hope that I’ll behave myself, but that surprise, even without the assumptions of poor gameplay and so forth piled on top, is one of the problems you addressed in your article. Not until meeting women at Magic tournaments, comic stores, and so on is common will that surprise go away. Until it goes away, it’s going to make you unhappy.
In the video game world, I’ve seen tournaments for women only, there’s a pretty big one going on right now for Quake III Arena. But while they do get women to play, they end up encouraging the stereotype. Male players get to thinking, “The girls can only hope to win if they only play each other.” Is that really helping the situation? I think it is probably better than not having such tournaments, but something more needs to be done. What that something might be, though, no one seems to have figured out yet.
Hey, thanks for the response. You're absolutely right about the vicious
cycle, and I don't have an brilliant suggestions for a solution. There just
seems to be something about men, women, the gaming culture, or all three that
makes it so that men are way more interested in gaming than their female
counterparts.
I don't want men to feel like they have to walk on eggshells around women
gamers, that wasn't my intent. I'm sure you'll be fine when you meet "the
fourth."
The whole women-only tournament thing is a hard one, too. We had a Magic
women's invitational. It was a lot of fun and I enjoyed it, but I was
terrified the entire time that it just made us look like a big joke.
-Michelle
Oh you get that occasionally, but guys don't care. It's like when women try to turn the tables on men and treat us like sex objects to teach us not to be so vulgar because it hurts feelings; but all that happens is turn most guys on. Some things just don't work both ways. Women get upset, men get amused.Nyx: I thought it was interesting. I wonder why you never hear something like that on the guy side, where the sterotype is the unwashed (and I'm sure there's more) gamer, yet you might have a "clean-cut, preppie" dude. The only time I hear a vague surprise is you guys finding out your teachers (or your students finding out, in Yellowjacket's case) play Magic.