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Actually, Spiderman, he hasn't tried being honest, trust me. He told her he's "not interested." He told her nothing whatsoever about why he's not interested. Also, he told her he's not interested in a relationship, so she want him as a friend...he didn't say to her from there on about how he doesn't want friends, especially friends like her.
And honestly, this whole thing couldn't have happened to anyone but Aku. Have you ever known one of them "nice" persons who are consequently so downright cowardly and almost too "objective" to actually stand up and shout out their opinion? They claim to be "righteous" at times, or "nice" at others - or simply too good for this life and its pains and suffering: they feel like they're heavenly angels being raped by the sins of the world! Oh, poor you! Well, Aku is one of those...
I don't believe it's normal - in fact, if I have to speak from experience, I'll be the first to say that it is possibly one of the first psychological illnesses in our modern-age, because it includes but is not limited to depression, anxiety, bipolar disorders, manic disorders...
So as to counterbalance Killer Joe's advice: remember this - you are different than others. Your needs are different, your personality is different, your entire physiological being demands differently. You are not equal to others and others are not equal to you: you are in a Natural rank - inferior to some and superior to others, and without a doubt, equal to some too. Your "Golden Rule" should be thus: how much do you value yourself? Since, psychologically speaking, you are "humble" and have the aforementioned symptom, you perhaps cannot exactly and honestly know where you stand in an order of the Natural rank, but only then will you know what "rule" applies to you.
It's funny how Killer Joe gives such a "wonderful" advice, and even goes further by suggesting: "be sure to treat people like people and not like things," yet, the very rule which he prescribes treats you like an object equal to others with no unique attributes, talents, and illnesses.
Don't be an object in some wise man's Olden Rule. See what rank Nature has rewarded you with - see where you stand in talent, spirit, life, liveliness, strive, leadership, belief, and above all, honesty - you'll know thereby where you stand in comparison to me, to Spidreman, to Killer Joe, to anyone in your life.
Don’t be afraid to be superior and don’t be afraid to admit who you are perhaps inferior to. That’s the only ethical law I believe in. The Golden Rule presupposes your inferiority, but seeing at how young of an age you are, test the waters! Let your freedom ring! And beware and especially cautious and paranoid when one tries to feed you the Olden Rules!