life is ....NOT good

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Turtlewax Joe

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Me and my girlfriend had a fight. It's to long to explain the whole situation but one of my friends Michele is tellin' me all this stuff that she says and how she talks about me when i'm not around. We had another fight today and well things are lookin' grim. I know i've got to let go but it's hard. i'm in a tough spot.

props to you michele for helpin out on this. I appreciate it. and thanx for the confidence boost yesturday.

props to you cpa for checkin' this out and hopefully somehow simpithyzing.

T.J.:p
 
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sageridder

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Talk to her and really listen.Be awefull sure your "friend" dosn't have another reason for telling you these things.She might want to be with you herself,she might have it in for your girl.If you are only getting this stuff from her and not your gut,and not anyone else be carefull you could throw away something good because you were manipulated to someones else's will.Then again it could be true, but if you care about this person don't ruin it on only hearsay.Hope you only the best just keep your head up and your eyes open.
 
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Chaos Turtle

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I don't trust girls. Sorry.
Guys either.
It's SO HARD to find someone to trust these days.
 
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Gizmo

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Life is always good if you like yourself.

I think liking yourself is a pre-requisite for getting into a relationship, too many people look for relationships to give them stability, whereas you should really be hoping to look to bring stability to the relationship.
 
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DÛke

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...

I'm just now beginning to experience Gizmo's genius...

Anyway, honestly, I think its your fault. You probably give your gf something to talk about, if not, then pardon me when I say that she's a b$#@h who doesn't deserve a man.

And I also must emphasize Gizmo's little point. However, if you become so confident, and so self fulfilled, than it will be very hard getting into a relationship. Like me, I have not been in a relationship ever since my last High School girlfriend, Erica (God bless her)...because the level of peacefulness I've acquired with myself is really too much. I love myself, and everything I can offer, all my abilities, and inabilities...but you know, it's also bad, because it's truely hard finding a lady who's like that too: who's secure about her soul and her body. It's even harder finding real friends now, since I can usually see through everyone...because a lot of people lack a strong character...and what's a friend that lacks security and character? Pathetic...

Hope everything works out for ya...

One of the best comments I have ever heard came from my friend, Brinda, who said: "You're always at war, until you're at peace with your own soul."
 
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Gizmo

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what's a friend that lacks security and character? Pathetic...
You wanna know whats pathetic? Dismissing people on such stupid grounds. You are only interested in having friends who have found inner peace? Wow how selfish are you? Might as well say 'I`m only interested in having friends who I won't have to ever actually help out, because they won't suffer emotional problems'

Thats just cheap. Im happy but my friends, by and large, arent. Im more than happy to take as much of their burden on my shoulders as I can if it will help them out.
 
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Turtlewax Joe

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Duke, I guess i'm not like you man. no way in hell have i found 'inner peace' in any way shape or form. i'm more tossing and turning inside. i can't take your advice since you are on the otherside of the rock and developing hard place.

however, Gizmo...you i can identify with. i am very willing to take as much of my friends burden as possible. often i find myself putting up with everyone elses s*** that i can't deal with mine. I am also very comfortable with myself right now and have actually found who i want to be. I don't think i can deal with it anymore and and her s*** is TOO much to deal with.

Sagerider, your comment made me look at the whole situation all over again...it's more than just my friend Michele, it all of my gf's ex-boyfriends, it's her best friend *our mutual friend* josie. Josie has a bf, who is my best friend. she has no motive to lie, however michele has expressed romantic interest in me she is a very good friend not know to mislead me.

IN SHORT i'm going to tell my girlfriend straight up that she better come clean and tell me what's going on... or i hit the f***ing road and never come back.

opinios anyone?
 
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Chaos Turtle

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Gizmo, if I ever make it across the ocean to your side, let's have a pint or four, 'kay? ;)
 
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DÛke

Guest
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Gizmo, do *you* want to know what's pathetic? You, not asking any questions, and assuming that I *don't* have friends that haven't "found" themselves yet. I admit, I haven't made many new friends since I started college about a year ago, but I kept all my other friends...

*All* of my friends have not "found" themselves yet, but they're my friends because they're on their way there. They are no losers who don't strive to be better, and certainly they're no fools. They are people, just like me, who have suffered, and mostly, are suffering and struggling through life's expenses and mishaps. My friend Brinda, she's a married women with kids: she says that finding one's self is an endless experience that never ends...and just because I'm fully happy with myself, doesn't mean that I haven't the ability to expand that happiness -- in fact, further expansion is always the case. You suddenly percieve me as a selfish person -- change your judgement, because it's too unclassy of you.

Sorry, some people I look at, and they're just stupid. Plain stupid. I talk to them: nothing. Some, on the other hand, you can instantly feel that there's a searching going, some kind of activity deep within.

And man, are you just shocking me today...in case you don't know, I've helped people *from* the CPA with "emotional" or "relationship" problems before...and these are people from the CPA -- have never seen and never will see. Can you guess how much helping around I do in *real life*? As intelligent as you seem, you probably can guess...

Gizmo:

Wow how selfish are you?
The question really is..."wow, how fast do you caculate your assumptions?"

Turtlewax Joe:

IN SHORT i'm going to tell my girlfriend straight up that she better come clean and tell me what's going on... or i hit the f***ing road and never come back.
And...

Myself:

Anyway, honestly, I think its your fault. You probably give your gf something to talk about, if not, then pardon me when I say that she's a b$#@h who doesn't deserve a man.
Although I didn't give an advice, you seem to be taking the road that I actually pointed out...yet you say you can't take my advice? :D
 
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Almindhra

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Must we turn everything into a lengthy drama?......



Whatever you do Joe, good luck....Relationships can be a b*tch sometimes, but they're worth it.....Hope you find some solution....
 
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Gizmo

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I didnt say that you dont have friends. I was just pointing that IN YOUR WORDS those friends are 'pathetic'.
Dont try to turn it around on me. You said that anybody who hadnt found themselves was a pathetic friend. Its up there in black and grey.
 
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DÛke

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<laughs>
Gizmo:

Dont try to turn it around on me.
No offense or anything, but I'm not trying to do anything. I am attempting, however, to show you the slight misunderstanding that you formed, in order to go against me.
Gizmo:

You said that anybody who hadnt found themselves was a pathetic friend. Its up there in black and grey.
Ok, here's what I said:
Myself:

...and what's a friend that lacks security and character? Pathetic...
Big difference, in my eye. One could still have a strong character, but have not found him or herself yet. Like my friends: they each posses a unique, and an amazingly powerful character...but they haven't found themselvs yet, as in, what they will be doing during their life time.

A strong character means a strong personality. I'm sure you know that a person can have a strong personality, but is still unable to "figure out" him or herself. In fact, I have a strong character, but I honestly don't know what I'll be doing with my life. Go to the music business, finish on my computer science major...become a writer...I don't know...and I probably will never know for sure.

Now that I have separated strong character from "finding the self," I assume that you see the difference. In all honesty, *yes,* I will not hang out with those that have a weak character...no matter how selfish or pathetic that is. But I care for those who "haven't found themselves," because that's a life-long experience. However, it doesn't take long to develop a strong character: just a strong mind.
 
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Turtlewax Joe

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ok i know there's sumthin' going on for sure. it's going to end. if she come's clean or not. it's all gone to hell. it's to long to mention all the little things. but the main thing is she goes behind my back and says things and does things that directly affect me. I have to respect myself and get out of this even thoguh i don't want to.

DuKe it just sounds like you may have valid points deep down, but you seem like you are full of your self and and are an arrogant oinkhole. you think you have the answers? get a f***ing clue.

Arhar: yes please... and if youm don't give me the cheese i'll turn you in for contributing to minors

T.J.:p
 
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Almindhra

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Originally posted by Turtlewax Joe
DuKe it just sounds like you may have valid points deep down, but you seem like you are full of your self and and are an arrogant oinkhole. you think you have the answers? get a f***ing clue.

hahahhahahahhaHAHAHAHHAHAAHAHHAHAAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAA.....
 
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Aku Necromancer

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Originally posted by Turtlewax Joe
DuKe it just sounds like you may have valid points deep down, but you seem like you are full of your self and and are an arrogant oinkhole. you think you have the answers? get a f***ing clue.
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Perhaps a comment like this should be directed to many other CPA members instead,...
 

TomB

Administrator
Staff member
Originally posted by Gizmo
Life is always good if you like yourself.

I think liking yourself is a pre-requisite for getting into a relationship, too many people look for relationships to give them stability, whereas you should really be hoping to look to bring stability to the relationship.
I'm impressed...:D
 
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