I once posted a thread discussing this very topic (can't remember where it is though), but here's where I'm comming from: Through the five or so years I've been playing Magic, I have witnessed some AMAZING case studies for 'People Skills' or lack of as this thread will lead to for discussion. Here are some things I do for my opponent (now mind you I'm speaking from a premier tournament event ie PTQ or pre-release) I shower before leaving my home for the event. I brush my teeth. I always keep "Altoids" handy (as counters ). I always introduce myself (usually first name only). I announce all of my phases. I don't talk about my opponent to my friends during a match as if s/he didn't exsist. I don't eat greasy hoagies or pizza during the match, especially when I'm playing with Duress and other "i'm gonna touch your cards with my greasy hands" cards ) I don't ask my opponent for counters or dice when I'm clearly playing a deck with a ton of Fading cards and tokens. I always keep track of both life totals. I only call a judge when necessary, not as a game stratagy. I always politely ask my opponent if it's okay to read a card I'm unfamiliar with, not lunge over the table and say, "What in God's creation is THAT piece of S***!!!!!" I never assume to know what deck my opponent is using (at least not out loud to my opponent's potentially next opponent). I don't get outwardly angry when I'm being beaten by someone that I have mistakenly underestimated their playing skills ie someone really young or old or stinky . I never ask to take back a mistake or move that I make. I've stopped my friendly chattering (because that's really annoying to people - I've found out ) I don't cheat, misrepresent a card or do 'funny' shuffling. I always offer my opponent an opportunity to cut my deck. And I always extend my hand for a shake at the completion of a match. Now I ask you, is this too much to expect from your opponent, especially when you're overextending these protocol's, or what?